Well, I had my first solo meeting with our social worker/adoption agency representative. I was nervous about it going in, because I just wasn’t sure what to expect. In hindsight it was a very pleasant, almost therapeutic conversation. Sometimes you just come across people who are easy to talk to, and Penny is one of those people. I felt good about the whole thing when it was time to conclude. It did remind me of a couple of things I had learned on my own journey of self improvement, and I found another blog where someone had detailed something that was key to my personal growth. I thought I’d share it with you in the hope that it benefits you as well. I find that when I lose focus on these things I inevitably introduce stress and conflict into my life.
I found this on a blog I subscribe to called “Zen Habits”. (http://zenhabits.net/2008/03/twelve-keys-of-emotional-intelligence/)
So, how does one go about creating a greater sense of emotional intelligence? In this post, I will outline the twelve aspects involved and offer brief descriptions of each:
- Awareness. Recognizing individual emotions as they occur, understanding why they occur, and understanding the effects (both good and bad) they have on you.
- Control. Resisting impulses and urges (delaying gratification), remaining calm even as chaos ensues, and always thinking clearly when those around you can’t.
- Assessment. Knowing strengths and weaknesses, learning from mistakes, and constantly striving to build on what you have in an attempt to make yourself better.
- Vision. Creating a sense of direction in your life, having the foresight to anticipate problems/needs before they arise, and paying attention to the details.
- Creativity. Thinking outside the box, developing a tolerance for ambiguity, and maintaining an openness to change.
- Innovation. Seeking out unconventional solutions to problems, keeping an open mind to novelty in the world, and applying creativity in practical ways.
- Ambition. Setting tough but attainable goals, constantly raising the bar in pursuit of excellence, and feeding the need for achievement whenever you can.
- Initiative. Taking the first step when opportunity arises, never sitting back because it’s not in your “job description”, and bending the rules (occasionally) when it comes to making progress.
- Conscientiousness. Accepting responsibility for personal performance, adopting a focused approach in your work, and understanding that nobody else is to blame for your shortcomings.
- Adaptability. Admitting when you’ve failed, remaining flexible in the face of obstacles, and never being too stubborn to change.
- Independence. Living with an unshakable sense of who you are, making your own decisions in the face of peer pressure, and acting despite tremendous risk and doubt.
- Optimism. Understanding we all make mistakes, choosing to persist no matter how many times you’ve failed, and always remaining hopeful that success is just around the corner.