Well friends, the whole process got significantly more complicated in the last 48 hours. The birth father has filed a petition to stop the adoption. He wants his son. I don’t feel it is appropriate to go into all the minute details, but suffice it to say we don’t know at this point if Miles is ours or not. The birth father is a single man, and has no other children. It is our understanding from speaking with our attorney that the whole process changes if the petition moves forward. Basically the adoption gets tossed out the window and it becomes a fight for custody between the two biological parents. The likelyhood of the father getting custody of Miles is less than that of him ending up with his mother. It is an unfortunate situation, and right and wrong are all shades of gray. At this point we still have Miles, but at any moment we may be instructed to take him back to the birth mother. Naturally we are struggling with this whole situation as is the birth mother.
The father seems to be a genuinely good man who simply wants to be a father to his son. The birth mother’s aunt met with the birth father in an attempt to introduce him to us by way of our profile and help him to see things from the perspective of the birth mom and us. The aunt left that meeting disappointed. Now we are hoping that once the financial burden is understood by the birth father as well as the fact that he will likely not win custody and have a lot more financial obligations than he understood, that he will allow the adoption to take place. So in the meantime, we are in limbo, the birth mom is in limbo, Miles is in limbo as well. The birth father has asked for a couple of days to think about it, and he is talking to the birth mother.
At this point, we ask that you keep us in your prayers and please pray that the best thing for Miles be the outcome of this whole situation. I hope you will understand that I am not going to post any more pictures at the moment. The two of us are not exactly all smiles and parental bliss. Hopefully we will know more today or tomorrow. We simply don’t know.
Thanks for caring.