Right now we are both sort of vacillating between numb and accutely hurting. We are moving through the stages of grief. (Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) It is just such a difficult situation to have all that stuff apply appropriately. Sure we could direct our anger toward the birth father, but in this day and age, how can we really find fault with a father who actually wants to be a dad and wants to provide for his child when the parents are not married? Sure you can argue that the father is being selfish and only doing this because he wants his son. It would make it easier to think of him as some selfish monster concerned only with his wants and needs. We haven’t met him, but everyone who has says he is genuinely a nice guy who is polite, and wants to do the right thing for his son. Not everyone defines “right” in the same way.
So, as Michelle and I continue to struggle with the why aspect of the situation, we are left with this….. We asked that the outcome of the situation be the best thing for Miles. Maybe this is the best thing for him, we just don’t have the perspective to see all the factors involved.
Thanks for caring.