Well, I realize that I have not posted an update in more than a month, and I feel guilty about that, so let me explain. We have been, almost without pause, spending every free moment working on directly, or planning for working on the “new” house. Our contractor helped our budget quite a bit by allowing us to serve as a subcontractor. Michelle and I installed all the hard flooring surfaces in the house, the majority of the light fixtures/fans, and also served as the painting contractor. In relate-able terms, Michelle and I installed approximately 1300 square feet of tile, and laminate flooring. Michelle painted the entire first floor (1300 sq ft) and I scrapped and painted the deck. I have also been building doors for a storage area in the car port. (One is complete and installed thanks to help from my brother) So, I hope you will cut me some slack about having been MIA for more than a month. Today, in fact, is the “final inspection” for all the contract work that has been done. That does not mean that we are finished with all the things we need/want to do prior to moving in, but it will take some degree of the pressure off. Deadlines make for long days. Last week I was up at 5:50am every day, and worked at my paying job, left there, went home, changed clothes, and then worked at the house until at least 9 every night. That is not something I recommend that any of you do. The worst part of having to do that, was that I got very little “Logan time’. I missed that.
Saturday, Michelle needed uninterrupted time to get about 800 sq ft of floor grouted. So I was on Logan duty. The little guy and I had a good time. I enjoyed his request to have me pull him around in his wagon. We loaded up the wagon with his bubble machine and I pulled him up and down the driveway for probably at least an hour. I’m sure we looked like a scene that was cut from Willie Wonka with the trail of bubbles floating after our little caravan. I introduced him to the fun of picking a dandelion and blowing the seeds off. (yeah, I’m not a control freak about the lawn) I gently steered him away from a fire ant mound. (I took care of them later) We played on the deck, him riding his tricycle around the bubble machine and I watched and every once in a while scraped a loose flake of paint. He amazed me again, when we both got a little hot and decided to go inside and cool down. I took him up to his room where we had a portable crib set up. We played for a bit, and then I asked if he was tired. “Yes.” Do you want to take a nap? “No.” Less than 5 minutes later, “Daddy, I go nite nite.” That is pretty clear. I put him in the crib, covered him up, and he slept for 90 minutes.
Long story short, I really enjoyed spending time with my son on Saturday, and we made up for some lost time by having some real quality time. I’m very conscious of that balancing act. I think all parents do something as a reaction to their own upbringing that they found wanting. For me, my father was a wonderful man, a great provider, and certainly knowledgeable about many things, but I wish he had spent more time with me when I was young. I think that is one of the advantages to being a little bit older than most people with young kids. I’ve already done the career focus time, and my marriage is strong and stable and established. (we celebrated 20 years of wedded bliss early this month) So, I WANT to spend time with my son. I WANT him to look forward to spending time with me. I want to be someone he enjoys spending time with because I know that sometime in the future I will be the dad who simply doesn’t understand and could never understand his teen angst. Although it is hard to even imagine that kind of thing from our little guy.
All in all, the whole new house undertaking is one we are doing in large part because we both feel like Logan will benefit in every way from having this as his childhood home. He is only 2 now and likely will not remember the house where he lived for his first 2 years. Instead of 1/3 of an acre in a subdivision, he will have 1.7 acres with trees, a creek, a barn, and plenty of space to play. We have plans for a play area where I will build him a jungle gym type structure. His room in the new house will be more than double the size of his present room. I measured it yesterday. 18×13. I think he will have enough room for toys for a while. Michelle has found a really unique bed that gives the feel of sleeping in a tree house. (it will have stairs not a ladder) Naturally it will be safe, but that kind of a big room gives us the opportunity for more creativity. (yes, I will build that too.)
Until the next time. And, as always, thanks for reading.